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Ronela, a beautiful 15 month old girl, came to us as a foster child on April 1st, 2003. We cared for her as if she was our own birth child, until she was four years old. She came from a background of much neglect and turmoil. Read the CPS records here. Nelly was diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Failure to Thrive.
Nelly, as the years went by could be a handful and her behavior mostly showed while we were at home. She could be very disruptive at times and also had a very difficult time falling asleep at night. Scott and I through showing her love, had control over her behavior. Scott stood for hours sometimes just holding her in his arms until she fell asleep.
We educated ourselves on RAD. 1. RAD 2. RAD 3. RAD 4. RAD We responded to her behavior with God's love. Nelly was stable; she was enjoying her time at church and also her most favorite person in the world, her foster brother, Evan. They were inseparable from the time Evan was four months old. During moments of anxiety Nelly would stumble over her feet. It looked like a "clumsy walk." She also would stick out her tongue in between talking it seemed this was uncontrollable. Nelly's right eye also would go up as if she was having a seizure. We had her checked and she was not having any seizures. All these behaviors exhibited while she still was having visits and were under control when visits with the biological parents had stopped. Nelly had no visits for more than a year and because of the Kinship Policy implemented by CPS Hawaii Nelly suddenly was again re-introduced to the same mother who neglected her. Nelly did not meet her father until after she had been with us; he came from the Philippines and was a complete stranger to her. She started exhibiting her behavior all over again. Scott and I wrote letters and warned everyone that we thought would listen. Judge Murukami, Dr. Rutter, TC Kim and the Social Worker, Sharon Lucas. She ultimately made the decision to return Nelly to her parents. They did not listen. Nelly was returned to her biological parents on March 3rd, 2006 On August 2nd, 2008 my phone rang ,while I was in Texas. Nelly had been admitted to the hospital on July 21st and was on life support. They were considering removing her from life support. Ronela's mother had pushed her and the father was not there to protect her. I returned to Hawaii the next day. We had been praying for Nelly for 2 1/2 years. I had such a strong discernment about her that I had a bag with her dolly and stuffed animal ready to go for about a month. I had prepared the other children over the last months that mommy was going to go to Hawaii soon because of Nelly. The story continues... NEWS REPORT KHON BEVERLY'S JOURNAL 2006 Foster Babies in Hawaii Believing for a Miracle Missing Nelly Monday Morning A Daddy's Tears Nelly was Returned to Her Parents PHOTO SLIDE SHOW T-SHIRTS AND STICKERS |